The Closure Trap

Why Chasing Someone Else's "Why" Keeps You Stuck in Yesterday

Closure is one of the biggest scams out there.

It's the belief that you need to understand someone else's "why" before you can move on. But their why is their business. Your moving forward is yours.

We get trapped chasing explanations that were never ours to find. We replay conversations. We search for clues. We wonder endlessly. And while we're stuck in the past asking "why," we're missing the present moment—the one where we actually have power.

The world says you need closure to heal. But that's just another way of saying you need permission from the person who hurt you to stop hurting.

You don't.

Here's the truth: if it was meant for you, you wouldn't be wondering why it left. The fact that you're asking means it wasn't yours to keep. And every moment you spend trying to decode someone else's choices is a moment you're letting what wasn't for you control what is.

Freedom doesn't come from understanding their why. It comes from releasing your need to know.



When you find yourself trapped in that loop—needing answers, needing closure—pause. Ask yourself: what part of me is still seeking approval from someone who's already gone? What part of me believes I need their explanation to validate my worth?

The Breakthrough Prayer Arsenal was designed for moments like this. It helps you break the invisible ties to people and situations that no longer serve you. Not through understanding them, but through releasing them. You don't need their why. You just need your next step.